Arguably the biggest issues facing why men don’t want to get married anymore are due to government intervention.
Things like divorce courts, alimony, courts taking children away due to the other partners infidelity, and all the other related pleasantries that come with a failed marriage.
But it ponders the question: why is the government in charge of any of this to begin with?
Historically, marriage was dictated strictly by the churches or other religious institutions. The government didn’t need to play a part.
Why does it now?
Truthfully, so many of the issues facing relationships in the modern time could be fixed if it wasn’t for the government interfering.
This is especially true considering we have moved to a majority no-fault divorce directive. If there is no fault in why the marriage collapsed, why is the government needing to be the one to direct the handling of assets and children?
At least when there was a “yes-fault” condition, the government served a purpose: allowing legal evidence and a court system to determine the majority fault party, and act appropriately.
Yet, we just say it’s no one’s fault now and pass everything off. Yet the courts are still in charge. Why?
Money is certainly an aspect. The divorce system and family courts are massive money pits for lawyers, judges, and all the other associated a**holes.
Control is likely another. Government controls people indirectly, we are still a quasi-republic after all. What better way to establish control than through an indirect method such as your relationship? Pretty easy to control men if you have them by the balls due to child support payments, alimony, child visitation rights, and all the other government-marriage mandated bullshit.
An easy solution to this issue is to have marriage not be controlled by the state. Because in reality, it shouldn’t have that power to begin with.
Love is not an object that should ever be regulated, as it is in the case of marriage. Churches should be the principle holders of marriage, and the government should hitch a ride to an island far, far away.
Why should individuals that are married receive tax benefits? Are they better than other people in love that don’t have a ring?
Why should an immigrant be able to circumvent all the required rules regarding immigration if he or she marries someone?
Why must I marry someone to give them the spousal health benefit or partner death tax benefits, if I’m paying for these anyway?
Why should men be required to take on so many massive risks inherent with marriage while the entire system favors women so immensely?
I understand the importance of the government in regulating destroyed families: single mothers, widowed parents, children without homes. But in a traditional marriage with a mom and dad happily present? They serve no purpose, besides to forcibly tear out the man’s remaining power and flauntingly place it in the wife’s purse.
Marriage is arguably one of the most important institutions in society. It’s the model for the family structure, cultural norms, and everything else that follows.
Failed families are the root of practically all problems: from crime, to poverty, to health issues, to the welfare state.
Which is why family is so very, very important in any and all societies.
And family is built on marriage.
So why is the government regulating the family?
Instead, a stable cultural indicator should be in charge of promoting family, and thus marriage. The church. Or religion. As was its originally intended purpose. Marriage was always meant to be regarded solely as a religious covenant. “Forever” doesn’t really mean very long if you’re an atheist.
The government has outstayed its welcome in the marriage realm.
I would much prefer a church regulating marriage.
Not a government hell bent on destroying itself.